Hello and welcome to the BARE Podcast!
This is your host, Susan Hyatt. This is Season Two, Episode One.
The BARE Podcast is a show where we talk about your body and your life.
We discuss things like…
– How to take really good care of your body, even if you’re very, very busy.
– How to get better sleep, feel less stressed out, and have way more energy.
– How to stop all the crazy dieting and binge-ing and yo-yo-ing and create a balanced, sustainable relationship with food.
– Most of all, on this show, we’re talking about how to really enjoy your body and enjoy your life.
Here is my philosophy:
You only get one body. Give it love.
You only get one life. Make it count.
Without further ado, let’s get into Season Two.
The BIG QUESTION I’m answering today:
Today’s question comes from Jessica.
“Susan, you’re always encouraging women to ‘stop dieting’ and ‘stop counting calories and carbs’ and just ‘relax’ with food. But I’m already overweight. I don’t feel comfortable in my body. I want to lose weight. So if I stop tracking what I eat, won’t I just gain even more weight? I’m scared that if I ‘loosen up’ then I’ll just lose all control.”
And here’s my answer:
A lot of women wonder about this. And a lot of women feel like the only way to lose weight—or maintain their weight—is to vigilantly, obsessively track every calorie and record everything with a smartphone app. Constant vigilance! Tracking your food like it’s a part-time job! About 12 years ago, that was totally me! I would track every morsel. But ladies, this is NOT the way. In fact, it’s counter productive. And it’s so exhausting.
When I’m working with my clients, my goal is to help them create a more relaxed, enjoyable relationship with food.
But I’m not saying, “Stop caring about food” or “Ignore your body” or “Eat chips until you’re going to burst.” What I’m saying is, “Relax. Slow down. Taste your food. Enjoy your food. Pay attention to your food, without obsessing about it.”
Because there’s a big difference between “eating attentively” and “eating obsessively.”
Let’s break it down.
“Eating obsessively” means…
– You’re obsessively tracking every calorie, every carb, every gram of fat, every bite.
– You’re constantly worrying about food. What to eat. When to eat. How much to eat. It causes you a lot of stress, pretty much on a daily basis.
– You’re following rigid, unrealistic food rules. Like a diet. Or a detox plan.
– You feel really upset with yourself if you eat too much or if you feel like you’ve “broken the rules.”
– You’re really preoccupied with food. It sucks up a lot of your time and mental energy.
– You often swing between extremes. Maybe you eat obsessively “clean” for one week, but then you’re bingeing on nachos from the gas station the next week.
– You think about food a lot. Maybe constantly. Maybe food is the only “pleasurable” part of your day, so it becomes an unhealthy obsession.
Does any of that sound like you? Then I would describe that as “eating obsessively.” It’s not fun. It’s really stressful. And it’s definitely not great for your body.
I don’t want you to stay in that pattern. I want you to shift from eating obsessively to eating attentively.
“Eating attentively” means…
– You pay attention to how your body feels. If you’re hungry, you eat. If you’re starting to feel full, you stop.
– You slow… way… down. You don’t rush through your meals. You slow down, you breathe, you actually taste and enjoy your food. You pay attention to how things taste, how things feel.
– Instead of worrying how much to eat, you tune into your body and your body tells you exactly when you’ve had enough. When you start feeling those physical signals, telling you, “Hey, I’m getting full…” then you stop. (This is hard to do when you’re rushing through a meal. It’s much easier to do when you slow down.)
– Eating attentively also means that you let your body tell you WHAT it wants to eat. You listen to your body’s signals. You tune in.
– Maybe you discover that your body handles gluten just fine, but dairy, not so much. Maybe you discover that 1 glass of wine with dinner is fine, but 2 is going to mess up your sleep. You pay attention to how food is interacting with your body.
– Eating attentively also means that you celebrate food! You savor it. You cherish it. You eat like a European, like a French woman—slowly, appreciatively. Meal time becomes a pleasurable moment in your day.
Look, you can pay attention to your finances… without obsessing about your finances and checking your bank account balance every ten minutes.
You can see a dermatologist, and pay attention to your skin, and take good care of your skin… without obsessing about your skin and checking your mirror every ten seconds.
And, you can pay attention to your food… without obsessing about your food and obsessively tracking it.
My wish for you—and for every woman—is to shift from obsessing to simply paying attention.
I know you can do it. And you can practice at your very next meal.
It can be such a small shift, but the impact is huge. Instead of munching a scone in front of your computer, take the scone outta the bag, put in on a nice plate, sit by a sunny window, and eat attentively. Taste it. Enjoy it. It’s so much better for your mental AND physical health, for your digestion, for your metabolism, for every system in your body.
You will not BELIEVE what a difference in makes.
Your body will respond right away and say, “Oh my god… thank you. This is what I’ve been waiting for. Thank you, thank you.”
Our next segment is called TELL ME EVERYTHING!
This is where I chat with an amazing woman that I L-O-V-E and we have a conversation about food, feminism, fitness, sex, or… something else that I am dying to talk about. Today we’re chatting with Isobel Foxen Duke of www.stopfightingfood.com . Here we go!
About Isabel Foxen Duke:
Isabel Foxen Duke is the Creator of Stop Fighting Food — a free video training program for women who want to “stop feeling crazy around food.” After years of trying to overcome emotional eating, binge-eating and chronic weight-cycling through “traditional” and alternative approaches, Isabel discovered some radical new ways to get women over their “food issues” once and for all — not just by shifting the mindsets of individuals, but by challenging the dominant diet culture as a whole. Her writing and free guide, How To Not Eat Cake, can be found at www.isabelfoxenduke.com and you can watch her free video training series at www.stopfightingfood.com.
In this episode Isabel shares:
- Her take on the difference between emotional eating and binge eating.
- The effects of “dieting” and “falling off the wagon”.
- The success/failure model of eating.
- Intuitive eating.
- Her opinion on the labels “food addict” & “sugar addict”.
- Her attempts with abstinence from sugar.
- Rebellious binges and restriction.
From your desktop you can skip right to her interview here.. From a mobile device, manually skip to 6:15!
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Today’s BARE Victory:
One of our amazing BARE Daily participants posted in the group a picture of herself from about 8 weeks ago and a picture of herself today and she says,
“I just wanted to share, I see a difference in my stomach and face when doing the side by side comparison. Almost 20 lbs down since January 2nd NOT DIETING. THRILLED because it isn’t grueling work this time. I never thought it was possible to lose weight without being miserable. Susan, your BARE process is amazing. Heading to a better me, inside & out.”
That’s so awesome, Amber. I just want to mention here that the celebration for me isn’t about the fact that she’s losing weight. The celebration is that she’s stopped dieting and her body is adjusting to not being at war with itself anymore.
Here’s another BARE Victory from an amazing BARE Daily participant who’s also a coach. Nicole writes,
“In one of my coaching circles, I challenged my women to write a love letter to themselves. Mine turned out more like a poem and I was brave enough to make it my blog post for the week. It was a great exercise and I thought I would share…
I have not always been nice to her.
I have said things, to her, that I would be mortified if anyone heard.
Yet she shows up for me, relentlessly. Day in and day out.
It’s a miracle really, she is a miracle.
I have taken her for granted.
Created so many rules for her…..more than I can count.
Yet she continues to recover.
Her will is strong.
She waited for me, she waited for a really long time.
She was patient.
She never failed me.
She is my body.
I want to say that I am sorry it took me so long to love you, just the way you are.
I am sorry I was a bully.
I am sorry I didn’t think you were good enough or worthy.
I am sorry I binged and purged.
I am sorry.
Thank you for waiting for me to come around.
Thank you for carrying the weight of all my “shoulds”
Thank you for never giving up.
I know you rejoiced when I decided YOU were perfect and what I had been searching for my entire life.
You are worthy.
You are enough.
You are capable.
You are amazing.
You are beautiful.
You are a miracle.
We have many adventures to go on, mountains to climb, miles to run, places to see. You are my engine in this grand adventure and it wouldn’t be possible without you.
I adore you.
I am forever grateful.
I will cherish you and nourish you.
I will love you relentlessly.
You are my body and the only one I have.”
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