Hello and happy Monday! This is Susan Hyatt and it’s GO time. This is episode number 153.
This is a show where we talk about goals, and courage, and going after what you really want in life.
Today, we’re talking about living your life FULL OUT… NOW. No more waiting to do the things that you want to do.
Create the life you crave now. Today. With what you have. Be the woman with the stories, not the regrets.
Wanna read the full transcript? Here ya go:
A few years ago, I created a new mantra for myself.
“I want to be the woman with the stories, not the regrets.”
When I’m a very old lady on my deathbed, sipping my hot tea with honey, lemon (and maybe a splash of whiskey), I want to look back on my life and think, “Well THAT was fun ride! Hell yes!”
I don’t want to look back and think, “Oh. Gosh. There’s a lot I wish I had done…my life just didn’t turn out how I thought.”
We’re arriving on the one year anniversary of my father in laws death. This time last year my daughter and I were preparing to go to Paris for a month. Right before we left we went to visit him. He had fallen and broken his arm and was in the hospital.
My husband said to him, “Hey Dad! Ask Susan where she and Emily are going.”
And my father in law said, “Well where are ya going?”
And I said, “We’re going to Paris for a month!”
He said, “WHAT!” and I said, “We’re going to Paris!”
And he sat back in his bed and said, “Oh gosh. That just hits me like a ton of bricks right in the chest. And I asked him, “Why?” He said, “Because I’d love to go with you…and now I can’t get out of this bed and go.”
The truth is, after my mother in law passed away a few years prior, he really closed up shop. He really wanted to be with her. He was lying in that hospital bed, basically recounting for me, that he had saved and been frugal their whole lives. YES… they had had a wonderful life and raised four great human beings. They have an amazing crew of grandchildren. They took us on Disney vacations and they camped and did lots of things… but a lot of the big trips that my mother in law wanted to take, they always were saving for later. For retirement. And then she, as a surprise to everyone, was diagnosed with throat cancer and passed away decades sooner than anyone expected.
He basically said, “Tell your ladies…” he meant my clients, “Tell your ladies not to wait. Tell them to do all the stuff they want to do NOW.”
I think about that conversation all the time. We left for Paris and he passed away while we were there.
I came home and I thought:
“Wow. That was really one of his dying wishes. For me to continue my work and to remind people…
You want to collect the stories, the memories, the moments, the experiences, the full range of emotions—like sparkling gems, each one a little treasure. We want to have everyday life feel like an adventure, an exciting story that’s always in progress.”
I’m more on fire than ever to communicate that in as many ways as possible as I can for you.
Some of my favorite stories, so far:
- When my daughter was heartbroken after her first break-up, and I told her, “Pack your suitcase. We’re flying to New York City for the weekend.” And then we actually did it.
- When I saw a wild piece of artwork—a neon light fixture that says FUCK—and I decided, “Yup. That’s definitely going into my office TODAY.”
- When I decided to clear out all my old, sad, tired, frumpy “mom clothes” and reinvent my entire wardrobe, signaling a new chapter in my life. Goodbye, Lands’ End catalog. Hello, leather pants.
- When I went to Washington DC to participate in the Women’s March so that I could be part of history—and so my grandkids would have a photo of Grandma Susan wearing a pink pussy hat.
- Recently I was in the airport with the Silver Fox flying out for a 48 hour getaway to the beach. I was remarking how elegant it used to be to fly & travel. But NOW… ugh. It just seems like such a hassle. I said, “You know what I would love? I would love to be able to pull up to the airport, have someone take my bags and walk right onto the plane with no hassle.” He laughed and said, “Well there IS that option. It’s called the private plane airport down the road.” I jokingly told my husband, “You need to get your pilots license and then you can fly me around to all my gigs.” But what started out as a joke quickly turned into me wondering why I thought HE should get his pilots license. I should get MY pilots license. I got home. I signed up. I’m taking pilots lessons and I’ll keep you posted!
- When I spent one month living in Thailand with my son Ryan. He did Muay Thai every day. I met Thai villagers who possessed literally nothing and who understood the true meaning of happiness.
And what about you? What are your favorite stories and memories, so far? What are the stories you want to create next?
A great story doesn’t necessarily have to involve international travel or new clothes or making a big, dramatic decision. A great story can be, “This one time, I woke up my wife at 2am so we could go outside and watch the meteor shower.” Or it can be, “I’ll never forget how it felt to play hooky from work that one day, sneak my kids out of school, and head to the beach on the most perfect summer afternoon. Just because.”
Say YES and create the life of your dreams. Cast yourself as the main character in that movie. Be the person with the stories, not the regrets.
And the next time a friend texts you to say, “I know this is crazy and last-minute, but would you like to fly to Los Angeles on Monday? Because I’m throwing myself a 50th birthday party and I saved you a seat at the table…”
Don’t say, “Oh, I wish I could.”
Say, “Hell yes.”
PS. In a couple of days I have a program called the SUMMER OF YES. It’s all about pledging what you’re going to do for yourself this summer. Putting yourself on the front burner and having a group of like minded women hold you accountable. You can sign up right here. HELL YES!!