October 31, 2021
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Women, Sex, Haters, and Money ft. Taylor Sparks

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Want to hear a real horror story?

When you’re a woman, on top of your game, showing up authentically – all kinds of monsters people will come out of the woodwork and try to shut you down.

I talk about my “haters” on the Rich Coach Club podcast quite a bit, and it’s not because I care what they think or feel like some victim in a cheesy horror movie.

It’s because I like to call out internalized misogyny when I see it. And, since I encourage all of you to speak up and make a scene, you will likely attract your own hub of haters.

Interestingly, the people who try to quiet your voice and your vibe are not always strangers on the internet. They might be family members, friends, colleagues, mentors, or neighbors.

If you’re shining too bright, some people will try to dim your light. Something that our guest – a passionate erotic educator and sex goddess – is very intimate with!

I loved interviewing Taylor Sparks (aka Mariposa) for this important episode.

“Sex” is a topic that gets plenty of people shaking in their boots, and I couldn’t be more excited to hear her perspective on making a scene about sexual health/wellness.
With over a decade of experience in the natural skin care/cosmetics industry, Ms. Sparks launched OrganicLoven.com, one of the largest BIPOC owned online intimacy shops. Organic Loven specializes in improving adults’ sexual health/wellness and enhancing their sex lives via their organic intimate body products, body-safe sex toy materials, sex-positive books and erotic educational seminars.
Ms. Sparks’ expertise has contributed to articles in Bustle, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Men’s Health, Oprah, Shape, Women’s Health magazines and more. Taylor has become renowned in the adult travel industry and is a powerful public speaker both nationally and internationally. Her flagship seminar entitled,” How To Make Good Pussy, Better”, is extremely popular and focuses on the benefits of organic intimate body products and body safe sex toys. Socially and environmentally conscious and a strong supporter in all things organic, natural and eco-friendly…including Love.

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Full Episode Transcript:

Susan Hyatt:
Welcome to the Rich Coach Club. The podcast that teaches you how to build your dream coaching practice and how to significantly increase your income. If you're a coach, and if you're determined to start making more money, this show is for you. I'm master-certified life coach Susan Hyatt and I am psyched for you to join me on this journey.

Susan Hyatt:
Hey, coaches. Guess what you all? Another hater has come out of the woodwork. I know you're shocked. So I won't go into the whole sordid story, but all you need to know is that it's a woman who calls herself a feminist, but said she couldn't really hear my message, over looking at my boobs. Fun times. I talk about my haters on this podcast quite a bit, and it's not because I care what they think or want to send more energy their way. It's because I like to call out internalized misogyny when I see it and since I encourage all of you to speak up and make a scene, you will likely attract your own little hub of haters. Interestingly, the people who try to quiet your voice and your vibe are not always strangers on the internet. They might be family members, friends, colleagues, mentors, or neighbors and if you're shining too bright, some people might try to dim your light and that's what today's episode is all about. So let's get into it.

Susan Hyatt:
It's October and Halloween is right around the corner and I don't want to turn this episode into scary stories that we tell in the dark. But if this hasn't happened to you yet, I need to issue a grave warning that when you're on top of your game and showing up authentically, somebody is going to come into your world and try to pop your balloon. In fact, various someones might show up and attempt to shut you down. It might be a family member who worries that coaching isn't a real career and advises you to pursue something more realistic. Excuse me, while I vomit a little in my mouth over that one. Maybe it's a well-intentioned colleague who gives you unsolicited critique on your latest photo shoot, worrying that you don't look professional enough. Or perhaps it's a total stranger who doesn't know a thing about you, but is thrilled to share how offended they are by your outfit, your message, your makeup, your hair, the way you breathe, et cetera, et cetera.

Susan Hyatt:
There's no doubt about it. These situations suck, but you can't let them deflate all the air from your balloon. Let's pump you back up boo berry and pop some confetti in your honor. When the haters come knocking, that's a sign, you're doing something right. As someone who has dealt with tons of haters, I've got a few tips on how to shut the shit down and keep making big moves. First realize that their words are not really about you, at all. Sometimes it's internalized misogyny or patriarchy raising its ugly head and sometimes they're diminishing their own light and feeling envious that you're out there shining. Maybe they just had a terrible day and you were an easy target. There's no excuse for it, but you also can't control it. What you can control is your reaction. So instead of freaking out and letting their words ruin your entire mood, just accept that it's not about you. If you want to respond, you can simply say, "I'm doing me and I'm proud of it."

Susan Hyatt:
Second, in the wise words of Dita Von Teese, "You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there's still going to be somebody who hates peaches." You can't control how other people feel about you. Their opinion of you is really none of your business and again, you can only control your own reaction. So if someone doesn't like you, that's fine. They can kiss your peach and move on right along. You've got plenty of people to love up, who love you. And finally keep putting yourself out there. If you're living rent free in people's minds, you're doing something right. Keep speaking up and bravely making a scene and if you're worried that using your voice will only attract more haters. Let me say this. If no one is talking the right people aren't listening.

Susan Hyatt:
When you're making a scene, you will vibrantly attract the right people into your orbit. You become like a magnet and people are drawn to your words and energy. They get inspired by your boldness and bravery. And when you're making a scene, you're words will also infiltrate people who are not for you. This is important because your scene serves as a shield, protecting you from these people, not allowing them to penetrate your world. If you've ever had a nightmare client, you know what I mean. If you spend time worrying about offending someone and never speak your mind, you will consistently attract all the wrong people. Making a scene and putting yourself out there is your armor, use it wisely. And hey, sometimes making a scene even turns the haters into your biggest fans. I've had this happen multiple times. Someone who is wasting time criticizing a stranger needs a life coach more than anyone. The most critical voices can be the loudest, but don't let them take you down. There are people who are inspired by your bravery. So keep showing up loud and proud. Keep making a scene. Haters shut down.

Susan Hyatt:
Okay, you all get ready for a treat. I am bringing to you Taylor Sparks. Taylor is a passionate erotic educator and sex goddess. Hello? Are you ready for this? You better believe she's had some haters with that title. She's certified in both holistic aroma therapy and human behavior and with over a decade of experience in the natural skincare cosmetics industry, Miss Sparks launched organicloven.com, one of the largest bipoc owned online intimacy shops. Miss Spark's expertise has contributed to articles in Bustle, Cosmo, Glamor Men's Health, Oprah, Shape, Women's Health magazines, and more. Taylor has become renowned in the adult travel industry and is a powerful public speaker, both nationally and internationally. Her flagship seminar is entitled How To Make Good Pussy Better. You all get ready. I cannot wait for you to hear this interview with Taylor Sparks. Let's get into it.

Susan Hyatt:
We have the illuminating Taylor Sparks here with us today. Hi, Taylor.

Taylor Sparks:
Hi, Susan. Thank you so much for having me. I'm so excited to be here.

Susan Hyatt:
Well, I am so excited to have you here because I met you at The Most, and it was such a delight to be in your presence and in your energy. Truly, truly you a total standout, shining light. And your story was so compelling to me. Why don't we tell the people, what is it, when women say, "Oh, it's too late for me," or they come up to you as they did at The Most and say things like, "Oh my God, you look 30 years younger than you are." What do you credit all that to?

Taylor Sparks:
Sex and lots of it. I'm sorry. Good sex and lots of it.

Susan Hyatt:
Good sex, good sex.

Taylor Sparks:
Good sex and lots... Sex is... So I'm a sex goddess and as a sex goddess, I believe that sex is healing on both the giving and the receiving side. I love everything there is to do with regards... Everything to do about sex. Even if are things that I do not indulge in. Like I don't swallow and I don't do anal. So, but if you want to do it-

Susan Hyatt:
Wait just a minute, wait just a minute. You sell products. Well, we'll get to that in a minute, but you're basically like, "Hey, you all do what you want to do. But like, these are things I don't do."

Taylor Sparks:
I have my boundaries. I'm not doing that.

Susan Hyatt:
I don't know why I just made assumptions. Never make assumptions.

Taylor Sparks:
Nope. I'm not doing that.

Susan Hyatt:
And so what led you to this path of sex goddess, how does one become a sex goddess Taylor?

Taylor Sparks:
Oh, it's loving sex or loving everything about sex. Even the things that you do not yourself indulge in is one path to being a sex goddess. Knowing what you like and more importantly, knowing what you don't like and being able to ask. I tell people, men, women, children, use your words, use your words, open your mouth and say, "You know what I would like from you," or "Don't don't, don't do that. Don't do that." But this, I think I've always been open kind of sexually and curious about sex. My mom who wasn't very explicit, she told me about the birds and the bees, right. And as I saw someone recently said, "Now you're going to teach your children about the birds and the bees, the bees and the bees, the birds and the birds and the bees and the birds and the birds and the birds and the bees." Now we got circles and couples and so forth.

Taylor Sparks:
So I just, she was like, "I don't want you out there running around with them boys." And I was like, "Okay," but I couldn't wait to turn 18 until I can get out there with them boys and figure out what the hell the boys were doing that I wasn't supposed to be running around with them doing.

Susan Hyatt:
Right.

Taylor Sparks:
So always have been open and curious about sex. Pretty much all through my life. Always been able to talk about sex with no trouble and no issue, and always found people in general, just amazing. My cousin said, "You can find something interesting about anybody." I'm like, "Because people are amazing to me." So I've always wanted to be an entrepreneur. I never knew what I wanted to do, but I always knew I wanted to work for myself. So I get out of high school and I go to college for fashion. I did that for a while, but I ended up in administration, which eventually led me to being a corporate trainer, as I worked my way up into receptionist secretary, office manager, yada, yada, yada. And I did corporate training for about 15 years, but I always had something on the side and that side thing turned into my own corporate training company where I was working.

Taylor Sparks:
Then I got hired by a training company. So I taught management and leadership. I taught communications and negotiation but then the itch, I still wanted more. So, my husband and I moved to North Carolina and we had a terrible transition down there. His job turned out to be shit and I was supposed to be doing the corporate training thing. And I think everything in the house got turned off at least once so it was really bad.

Susan Hyatt:
Wait a minute. Everything in the house got turned off at least once, because you all couldn't pay your bills because you're trying to make it.

Taylor Sparks:
Yeah, because the job turned out to be nothing and I was trying to launch a company and we had two small children and we ran out of money.

Susan Hyatt:
I bet everybody listening to this podcast can relate to that. Anybody who's ever had their own business has been there.

Taylor Sparks:
Girl. Yeah. Ran out of money. And you come home with the kids from school, the lights don't turn on.

Susan Hyatt:
Oh, my God.

Taylor Sparks:
No, you just blame it on... You just go, "Oh, whatever. Stupid electrical people. They're working on the street down there. They done messed up our electricity. That's okay. We'll eat my candlelight tonight."

Susan Hyatt:
Right. Oh, my God.

Taylor Sparks:
The kids are young. Why have them worry about things, you see? And you learn the shock that the dog was still around the rest of that. So, anyway, I started making organic body butter because I couldn't afford to buy it as we were kind of working our way back up into our... You get a job, I get a job. He had two jobs. I had one job. And then my girlfriend opened up a store and I sent her some of my body butter and I named the company Morning Indigo after my children. My son's name is Tariq, which means morning star in Arabic and my daughter's name is Indigo. So I named the company Morning Indigo, which it still is today. So then that started my morning indigo company, which then I turned 40, ran my first marathon and I've since run two full marathons, eight half marathons, the sprint triathlon and a half iron man. We won't be doing that shit no more. Girl, that was harder and longer than both my labors combined.

Susan Hyatt:
I have to tell you, I've talked on this podcast many times, I'm a runner, but I am not... I mean, I can run distance. I've done one half. But I thought like, "Oh, well of course now I'm going to do a marathon." And I was like, "What?" and "What was I thinking?"

Taylor Sparks:
The training is crazy.

Susan Hyatt:
It's crazy. And so a half iron man is no joke.

Taylor Sparks:
Girl, seven months, seven months of training. I'm like what the entire... But I did it because my Morning Indigo company transitioned into a line called Skin Care for Athletes. So I developed a line of 16 head-to-toe products for elite endurance athletes. So we sponsored marathons and triathletes and triathlons. We sponsored five different Olympic athletes. We were in Muscle & Fitness Hers and we were in the ESPY Award gift bags and the Golden Goggle awards and Women's Sports Foundation Award shows, all in the gift bags. We opened up in... I forgot totally that we had launched in Singapore at a sports store there. And so we were rolling along in it, but it was like a freaking baby that would not get out of the bed. I just kept throwing money at it and throwing money at it. And it was like, "No."

Susan Hyatt:
Not getting up today.

Taylor Sparks:
I'm not getting up to date. So then another transition happens. My husband and I start going to adults only resorts and hanging out with the naked people. And I'm like, "Oh, my God, these are my people."

Susan Hyatt:
This story gives me so much life because there's... You're such an entrepreneur. There's so many twists and turns and ups. We're not even finished yet. Okay. So you go to the adult only resort and you're like, "These are my... I found my people."

Taylor Sparks:
I found my people. Let's get naked. Yes! And then that led me to us doing our own events. So we started producing our own events at these adult only resorts where we meet a couple, Pepe and Claudia Aguirre, who own Luxury Lifestyle Vacations, who said, "You can become an affiliate of ours and sell into our events and make money and go on trips." I'm like, "Say what now? We can make money and get a free room or a cabin on the cruise?" He said, "Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah." I'm like, "Well, sign us up."

Taylor Sparks:
So we started working for them or working with them, I should say, because I still... We still were doing our own events and they co-sponsored some events with us in Mexico and Jamaica. And then we started going with them on some of their trips. Claudia is a breast cancer survivor, two times. She had a foundation and she had asked me to come in to speak to her ladies about organic health and taking care of themselves and stress. I had a book published. I forgot during that whole crazy time, I had a book published called What's a Girl To Do In a Big City if She Can't Dance? When Stripping is Not an Option!

Susan Hyatt:
What? I had no idea.

Taylor Sparks:
Yes. Yeah. It was a self-help inspirational book and it was a chapter called [inaudible 00:17:02] time, all about self care for women and taking care and putting yourself first your their life. So I came in to talk to the ladies and I did that for about four, five years in a row. And the second year in, her and her husband asked me, they hired me rather, to do a private label line of sensual body massage oils in body washes. So I developed that for them and then when we launched it, we realized we had no place to sell it because they had a travel agency and I had a skin care for athletes company.

Taylor Sparks:
So I had noticed traveling with them that the other vendors on the cruises and resorts were selling a lot of chemical based intimate body products, which was just stupid to me. And so with some love and support from them, I started with their two products and their four products altogether, two different aromatics, but their four products eight years ago, just this month. I don't manufacture anymore, but now I sell over 1,000 products and I represent over 200 brands and we ship worldwide. And that's how Organic Loven got to be.

Susan Hyatt:
Organic Loven. And so you all, when I met Taylor at The Most, her parting gift was she gave me a little packet of samples, of product and I can't remember how long after I was home from The Most that I was like, "Where are those samples?" I was like, "Where are those?" I'm like, Scott Hyatt, Silver Fox." I was like, "Look what I have." When I tell you I was on Voxer with Robert and Rachel, I was like, Let me tell you what you're going to do right today. You're going to get online. You're going to go to organicloven.com and you are going to get you these products." They were howling and don't you know they did order.

Taylor Sparks:
Oh, did they? I didn't see that. [inaudible 00:19:10].

Susan Hyatt:
I definitely ordered. I was like, "Let me see, let me see what she's got. Let me see. These samples were good. Now I need all this stuff."

Taylor Sparks:
Oh, thank you so much. Thank you so much.

Susan Hyatt:
Yes. I was saving that story for you, Scott Hyatt cosigns. He cosigns approval on the mojo. What I get? I got the mojo.

Taylor Sparks:
Yeah, you got the mojo, the warming lubricant. Did you [crosstalk 00:19:34].

Susan Hyatt:
Yes. So you transitioned from making body butters and making the products to representing other products and shipping-

Taylor Sparks:
As a reseller.

Susan Hyatt:
As a reseller.

Taylor Sparks:
Yeah. I [crosstalk 00:19:50].

Susan Hyatt:
And so what have you noticed in that transition as an entrepreneur, what has been the most rewarding for you?

Taylor Sparks:
Ooh, so most of the time, so once I launched the products I wanted to sell the products where we were selling into these trips but I didn't want to stand there behind a freaking table. So I know that adults learn best with humor. So I developed seminars so that I could introduce the products and have some fun. So these are mostly up until about three years ago, I primarily presented and sold in the ethical non-monogamy community, the swinger lifestyle community. So a lot of people there are already open minded. So I developed my first seminar called How To Make Good Pussy Better.

Susan Hyatt:
I keep laughing so hard that my wireless headphones are reacting.

Taylor Sparks:
Oh, my God. So I did the seminars as a way to introduce these products and sexual health and wellness to the audience. So I just show them why it's important to use organic, intimate body products. And then I've expanded my repertoire of seminars there from one thing to another. I do a Spanking For Lovers, Your Ass Or Mine? Seminar. It's an Ass-piring Seminar.

Susan Hyatt:
Listen, I keep laughing. I swear to God, I have never in an interview... You keep saying things that are so unexpected, it's usually me shocking the other person on the interview.

Taylor Sparks:
Oh really? And I do one called, one specific for women on sexual health and wellness, called The Care And Feeding Of Your Pussy. There is one-

Susan Hyatt:
Which I think is so important because I can't tell you how... I mean, I know you know, but most women that I work with are high achieving entrepreneurs and or women who are struggling with food and body issues. And so their own pleasure in all ways, but particularly intimate pleasure, is something that is almost always overlooked.

Taylor Sparks:
It is overlooked a lot. The patriarchy, if you will, has basically told us that the only purpose for our vagina is to give birth or please them and then that is not the truth. Your womb, your [inaudible 00:22:34], your vulva, that gives life. Whether you never have children, that is a source of energy that you could use literally to manifest anything that you want. And I look to help women connect in the mind, in the heart and in the vagina because when you are connected in all three areas, your sex is amazing. The way you vision life is amazing but being connected is something that has to happen internally. You have to value your body for what it's capable of doing. And it's the connection with all three and having that connection really does lead you to be a sex goddess or a goddess in anything that you want.

Taylor Sparks:
You can be a culinary goddess. You can be a horticultural goddess, but being connected in all three areas will open up your portal, if you will, to being a goddess. It is vitally important that you take care of that part of your body because as I mentioned, sex is healing on both the giving and the receiving side. And that means even sex with yourself, not just to give it to somebody else, you see. With yourself to understand what pleases you, guide you through this world in ways that you can't even imagine. And it teaches you that no is a complete sentence. I was like, "Don't touch my pussy. Don't do it like that."

Susan Hyatt:
Right. "Not like that. You're in the wrong place." So what have you noticed... I just read an article yesterday online that said that, I mean, I believe it said 80% of women over 50 are not sexual at all.

Taylor Sparks:
Oh, God.

Susan Hyatt:
Right? You got a big job to do. So what do you think is happening? So obviously menopause, but what do you... This is a crisis. If that stat is true.

Taylor Sparks:
Some of it is marketing, right? Just like marketing tells us that our vaginas need to smell like island breeze, and this is why we need to douche. And it is not only my belief, I know for a fact, not only is vagina self cleaning, but pussy should taste and smell like pussy. Not-

Susan Hyatt:
I saw your post the other day about that. I was laughing. Amen. I've never... Listen, maybe I'm just lazy, but I'm like, "I'm not doing that." This is what it is.

Taylor Sparks:
So some of it is marketing, right. When you get older, your estrogen lowers and so you're going to be dry and you're not going to be interested in sex. So you need these pills." Right? "You need these pills. You need these shots to get your mojo back," when in fact that yes, when menopause happens, yes, our estrogen does lower. Does everybody get a dry vagina and a lower libido? No, it is not the freaking law. It is not the law. You don't have to necessarily do hormone replacement. There are natural ways to balance out your hormones like maca, which is a... It's a root vegetable. It's been around for 3,000 years. It only grows up in the mountains in the Andes in South America, you can get it in a capsule there or powder form. I've been taking maca since pre-menopause.

Taylor Sparks:
It increases your libido. It balances out your hormones because it's an adaptogen. So what you need and what I need could be two totally different things, right?

Susan Hyatt:
Right.

Taylor Sparks:
It's good for your thyroid gland and also helps to bring your natural juices back. So before we go to the outside world, let's start with the inside world. Are we drinking enough water, right? Using maca, using flax seed oil, a blend of three, six, and nine will also because they're, what's called estradiols and they're not estrogen themselves, but they give that thought process to the body so you'll start to be more juicy. And a lot of time, by the time we're 50, shit, we're tired. We done raise kids, we done raise the house, we done raise a fucking husband who has gotten on our last nerve. And some of our men in their fifties have not taken care of themselves so their dick don't work anyway and we're like, "You know what? Fuck it." I just don't want to be bothered because most people are in monogamous relationships and we believe we have to put up with this.

Taylor Sparks:
We believe that because we turn 50, we should no longer be in interested in sex. We should no longer be putting on a short skirt and heels. We should be wearing our flats all the time now. Who said that? Who said that? And back in the day, when our grandparents had no birth control, they were still having babies well into their forties, right? If not some of them in their fifties. They're tired. You have a baby at 48, at 50 you got a two-year old. You're like, "Listen, you touch me again, we going fight." So some of that has been left over from men wanting us to stop being sexual so they can run around with young chicks that makes them feel better. Now, married 25 years, first 12 years monogamous. The second half open, swinging poly, kinky. I was poly so I pre-COVID, damn COVID, I had my husband and three boyfriends.

Susan Hyatt:
Listen. That's a whole other episode, a husband plus three boyfriends. I would be like, "Oh, you all. Just leave, go." I don't have space for four?

Taylor Sparks:
Two of them did not live in the States. So they were like comet lovers. A comet only comes by once every few [inaudible 00:29:06].

Susan Hyatt:
Okay.

Taylor Sparks:
Only two were local. And monogamy, as we know it today, which [inaudible 00:29:15] is a different episode. Monogamy, as we know it today has only been this way for the most recent 150 years.

Susan Hyatt:
Right.

Taylor Sparks:
When we got married in the past the marriage wasn't the center of our attention. It was a contract to either merge families, expand land, wealth and that our desires were everywhere else. Love came, but that wasn't the purpose. Now, the way society has between Christianity and patriarchy, well, not even patriarchy in this one, mostly Christianity, been trying to keep men in one spot. They were like, "You should only have one wife instead of running... We might need you for war, stop running around the country looking for other women. You do just need one." But no one person can give you everything and I believe monogamy is a choice, just like ethical non-monogamy is a choice.

Susan Hyatt:
Totally. I agree with you wholeheartedly and it absolutely is a choice. And I agree, no one completes you. No one is... you're the one, you're the one.

Taylor Sparks:
Yeah. Oh, I'm complete. You should come to the ladyship complete.

Susan Hyatt:
And so I agree with you. I think that we, in terms of aging in general, women are fed so many lies. But I do think women... I'm 48. I'm not yet 50, but I'm approaching 50.

Taylor Sparks:
Fifties is good. I'm out of my fifties. You know that, right?

Susan Hyatt:
Yes, I do know. Which is why it's like, I mean, redonculous. It's like, "What is she having? I'll have it."

Taylor Sparks:
More sex.

Susan Hyatt:
More sex is the answer, which I am on board for that. But I do think women, when they start to, "I'm an empty nester now." It's true. It's like, "I'm tired. Don't have time for any bullshit." And now it's like, "Okay, it's go time in terms of the next chapter and what do I want that next chapter to be? I definitely don't want it to be dried up, no sex."

Taylor Sparks:
Right. So this is the question, right? And I heard Clinton say, "Some of us have more doors closed behind us than we have opened in front of us." Right. And who said to you at some point in your life, to the women who over 40 or women who were at over 50, who told you that you no longer were desirable and that your desire has waned? You have to take a look at who said that and why did they say that? What was going on in their life? Because sometimes that whole misery loves company right. "Girl, you know that man ain't never been no good," and "These men out here ain't shit," and "Why would you be bothered?" Bothered? Why is it a bother? I hear women, "I can't find good men. I'm like, "I find good men everywhere, as well as good women."

Taylor Sparks:
But this is about self care. If your partners don't wish to indulge in sex with you, relationships are designed to serve the people in them and when things change, libidos, desire, lust, we should change the structure of the relationship and not look to change the people. What we tend to do is like what you need to do and what you should do, as opposed to what do I need to do for myself that makes me happy. Only you are in charge and responsible for your own happiness. No one makes you happy. So if your partner is no longer sexual, but you still wish to be sexual, there are plenty of ways that you can take care of yourself. And that is not about cheating or going out with others. It's not even about opening the relationship at all. It's about how do I get pleasure for myself? And it could be yes, sexual. It could be salsa dancing. And if that brings you joy, it could be traveling. But the thing is, is to be honest. If you are 70 and you want to have sex, then you should have it. [crosstalk 00:33:43]

Susan Hyatt:
Yes.

Taylor Sparks:
Or someone else. My mother got a boyfriend at 75 and I'm like... And well, they started dating, somebody she had known in the family for many years. And I'm like, "So, I got you some condoms, because older people are getting diseases more than younger people because you all don't know no better." She's like, "I don't want those condoms. I'm not going to have sex with that man." I'm like, "You're single, he's single and you're both healthy. What are you waiting on old lady? You don't got that many more years left. What the fuck are you waiting on? This is a man who's healthy. He's 70. He's healthy." Oh, my-

Susan Hyatt:
Get to it.

Taylor Sparks:
Get to it, take the condoms. So they-

Susan Hyatt:
And some of this mojo stuff, Susan Hyatt cosigns.

Taylor Sparks:
And so they have a relationship and I'm like, that's what... Sex is healing. It's destressing.

Susan Hyatt:
Absolutely.

Taylor Sparks:
You should have it if you want to. If you don't want to have it, listen, don't matter what I say, it's not going to make it better, but there's no reason to think that you have to stop having sex with others and or especially yourself because you're 50 or 60. My current husband is 37.

Susan Hyatt:
Listen, I am here for this. He's a smart man.

Taylor Sparks:
He is. He's like, "I learned a lot. I'm learning a lot."

Susan Hyatt:
So if people want to... Well, first of all, if you to check out products on Organic Loven, I do think Taylor, you said at the top of the call before we hit the recording, that you have a special discount for people. So is it if they enter Hyatt-

Taylor Sparks:
Yeah, Hyatt and the number 15 that will give you 15% off anything on the site except the trips. You can also go to the menu and click come with us and you'll see all our upcoming trips we have. And most of the... Some big cruises and some small cruises, intimate ones and we're doing Jamaica and Tahiti and we're going back to France and all these other... Cap d'Agde. You should come to Cap d'Agde. Cap d'Agde is a city of 50,000 nudest in the south of France.

Susan Hyatt:
Are you serious? 50,000?

Taylor Sparks:
No, it's a city. It's not a resort. It's a city. It's a village.

Susan Hyatt:
Well, what's next for you, do you think?

Taylor Sparks:
Well, the business grew over 700% during COVID. Well-

Susan Hyatt:
Wow.

Taylor Sparks:
It's still growing. I'm up almost 200% this year over last year and last year was over 700% over the year before. So I have taken your advice and Rachel's advice. I've hired people and the business is still growing. I am going to launch next year and Align With Your Inner Sex Goddess course.

Susan Hyatt:
Oh, this is exciting.

Taylor Sparks:
Yes. To help women learn to actually learn one, to get rid of any traumas that they've had, to connect with themselves as I mentioned, to learn how to use their words. So it's going to be a fun course. And then of course the holidays are coming up. So the Black Friday, Cyber Monday. So make sure to sign up for the newsletter at Organic Loven. And it's L-O-V-E-N.com and there'll be all kinds of goodies. Ooh. Susan.

Susan Hyatt:
What?

Taylor Sparks:
Susan?

Susan Hyatt:
What?

Taylor Sparks:
Because we have a subscription box on this, we have our very first luxury box coming out [crosstalk 00:37:32].

Susan Hyatt:
Oh, my gosh. I can't wait to see it.

Taylor Sparks:
It's going to have so much good shit and we're going to have our first ever box that anyone has ever had for throuples.

Susan Hyatt:
Listen, listen I know some throuples.

Taylor Sparks:
You have some throuples?

Susan Hyatt:
I know some throuples. I'll send it on.

Taylor Sparks:
In every configuration. Male, female, male. Female, male, female. Female, female, female. Male, male, male. I got you. I got you.

Susan Hyatt:
Well, Taylor, thank you so much for coming on the show. You are a delight. I can't wait for everyone to listen to this and check you out and possibly buy my favorite product, which is mojo.

Taylor Sparks:
The mojo, mojo warming lubricate.

Susan Hyatt:
Okay. One more thing before you go. Let haters doubt be your fuel. If you've got naysayers in your life who believe you'll never make it or become successful, don't even give them a response. Allow their words to fuel and motivate you and if you need help with that, reach out to my team and explore our available options to work together. I actually have one opening for one-on-one coaching right now, and we also have On The Six and the Mastermind enrolling. There's nothing I love more than proving naysayers wrong and helping you succeed. Thank you for listening to this episode of the Rich Coach Club podcast. I hope this episode has inspired you to shine bright despite the critics. Thanks again for listening and I'll see you next week.

 

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